a person with whom one has a strong affinity.
Dictionary.com UnabridgedBased on the Random House Dictionary, © Random House, Inc. 2009.
This is the honest definition of the word soul mate. I have been hearing it so much lately, that I decided I needed to write an entire entry on it. I may be the rare breed to think such things, but I think there is more than one soul mate for everyone. “Strong affinity” can apply to anyone. I thought I found my soul mate more than once before I even met Bennett.
When we were doing our marriage counseling, our pastor asked us if we thought we were the only people we could be married to happily. And we both answered no. And neither one of us was hurt by it, because it’s the simple truth. You can be married to almost anyone you have a strong affinity for; but you don’t want to. You marry the person you want to marry, and that’s how that goes.
I can think of 4 people that I thought were my soul mates, and I only married one.
Daniel- I thought this kid was the absolute love of my life. I don’t know if it was just young love or stupidity, but I really did think that he was it for me. I almost moved back to Georgia to be with him. This is the classic case of everything happens for a reason. He married another girl that worked at the movie theater and is now living happily with his in-laws in Ohio.
Joseph- Me and Joseph had a very special relationship. He was my first real “boy” best friend that turned into 2 years of torture and love. I honestly don’t regret anything with him. He was, and probably continues to be, a great guy. He married one of his best girl friends and is up north living happily with her.
Chris- I thought this was the end with him. I seriously thought, “no more looking around for me, I’m finished.” Until I found out that he did not feel that same way, which was heart wrenching, but survivable. I always tended to need him more than he wanted or needed me. We shared a few great moments that I won’t forget, and hopefully he won’t either, but this is THE case of bad timing. And again everything happens for a reason.
Bennett- Bennett is my soul mate that I wanted to marry. He is a great husband, my best friend and everything in between. I can play with him; he loves me FOR my screaming at football games and for my ability to make an ass out of myself in pretty much every situation. He makes me feel safe and comfortable and always smells good. He is my absolute favorite person in the world.
So there you have it. Could I have married any of these people and probably been happy? Yes. But did I? No. I married Bennett and am as happy as a clam.
That’s about all you’re going to get out of me for today.