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The Comparesies

April 16, 2015 · 7 Comments

Being a blogger makes it really  easy to compare your life, clothes, hair, dog, what camera you use to take your pictures, and it can go on and on and on.

What?  You didn’t get that super awesome {enter Target awesomeness object} yesterday like everyone else?  Or take that perfect Insta pic with flowers, a perfectly manicured hand and a coffee mug with your monogram on it?

You know what has made it worse?  Being pregnant.  I feel like I’m not a cute enough preggo — that my maternity clothes are ugly — that we’re not normal, because B doesn’t talk to the bump — that I’m not normal because I don’t loooooove  being pregnant.  Here is my 26 week pregnancy photo —

week 26

I’ve hated my hair lately, hence the black and white photos.  My bump isn’t sticking way out there — it looks like he is pretty much taking up my entire abdomen instead of just being a cute little preggo belly.  I have on zero makeup; I threw my work clothes back on after I worked out, and my hair isn’t even close to being done.  But why do I feel the need to compare myself to other people who are pregnant?

I have never been a photogenic person — again, why the pictures of myself on this blog are few and far between (except for the belly ones — because, ha, you can’t see my face).  I’ve never been particularly girly (make up and hair — not my thing) — and I really haven’t want to spend a crap ton of money on clothes that I won’t wear in three months (holla for all of my old maxi dresses!).   So, knowing all of these things, WHY do I keep comparing myself to them.

The answer is I don’t really know.  I wish I looked like those cute bump girls — and I wish I cared about smocked clothing and the latest baby wrap, but I don’t.  I had someone send me this a few weeks ago, and I think I’m going to adopt this into my way of life:

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Because I hear the comparesies get even worse after the kid is born…..

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  1. Ralph Marion says

    April 16, 2015 at 8:27 am

    I know how you feel(except not the preggers part). I think we all worry too much about how people think of us. We try to be like how everyone else is but not try to be ourselves. I will say that you are awesome the way you are. I know B thinks the same and double it. Keep worrying about how you are for you and everything else will be just fine.

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  2. Nadine says

    April 16, 2015 at 9:23 am

    Soooo I am not sure what pictures you are looking at….but I think you are adorable pregnant! I get the comparsies real bad too though from time to time so I can totally relate. You just keep being you because you are freaking awesome!!! Duh!!! Why else would we be friends?

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  3. Katie says

    April 16, 2015 at 10:32 am

    I know how you feel. Sometimes I contemplate quitting blogging for this very reason, it all feels so very competitive. I hate those staged instagram shots…they are so void of life. And I’m with you on not LOVING being pregnant. Every time i hear a woman say that I feel so guilty. I already love my baby so much, and yes I love the anticipation of meeting him/her, but being pregnant will never be “fun” for me. Just do you! When you are authentic a true light shines on you (that’s my Seaseme St. PSA moment for the day haha). I think you’re fab1

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  4. Kristen says

    April 16, 2015 at 3:19 pm

    I’m not pregnant, obviously.. but I know exactly how you feel. It annoys me because I am happy with my life. I wish I weighed a little less, I wish we had nicer stuff in our house and I had cuter clothes.. but if I have learned anything in this life it’s that no matter what I have, I always compare. One day I want to lose 5lbs, then I do, the next I want to lose another. If you (I) continually compare, it will never end. I’ve been really working on it, because it’s simply no fun!
    My husband will absolutely not talk to the bump, I can already guarantee that haha.
    Also – you look amazing. Tell that voice in your head to be quiet 😉

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  5. Morgan says

    April 17, 2015 at 9:14 am

    I agree with Nadine, you are such a cute pregnant lady!!! Your bump is adorable! I feel like it’s completely normal to play the comparison game (I play it all the time, and I hate that about myself!), but remember, you’re growing a tiny human inside of your belly. That is pretty amazing!!

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  6. Roberta says

    April 17, 2015 at 6:15 pm

    We live in this crazy world of comparisons and the electronic world only compounds this insanity. You are truly one of the
    Prettiest people both inside and out that I have ever met. I am so blessed that our lives crossed paths.

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  7. Artney says

    April 20, 2015 at 5:12 pm

    I thought you were so pretty when I saw you for the first time at the meet-up! So…you are absolutely photogenic and you are adorable preggo! I know it’s hard not to compare ourselves (I’m guilty), but we just can’t stay there. Never forget how beautiful you are even if you don’t feel like it.

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